Hmmm… Why isn’t she replying your texts? 🤔
This is something for the guys. Especially in this lockdown season.
I’m talking about that apple of your eye… lol, the one that isn’t replying your text, or didn’t even bother to click on it. Perhaps you’ve been wondering what it is you are doing wrong.
How about we try to help you do something about that 😉
Before I proceed, allow me to share a little chit-chat I had with a guy few months back. Then keep reading if you have experienced or experiencing a similar situation described.
It was mid December last year. We waited at the airport all looking stressed up as the flight had been delayed for the next 10 hours or so. We corpers gathered ourselves in one place, gisting and sharing camp experiences to while away time. You trust youths na, we don’t waste time.
In the midst of the conversation, I noticed this particular guy kept looking at his phone as if expecting an alert. Our eyes met a few times, and he finally said, “can I ask you a question?’
“Sure”. I replied, having no idea why he chose to ask me as I contributed almost nothing to the conversation, I’d decided to be more of a listener than a speaker.
“Why do you think a lady will decide not to reply a guy’s text?” Before I could utter a word, he immediately added as though he’d read my mind, “I mean I left this girl a text on WhatsApp, and she hasn’t replied.” It was so obvious that this issue was eating him up inside.
So, I said, “maybe she’s busy”.
“Nah” he replied sounding so sure. “I don’t think so. She updated a picture on her status after I chatted her up”.
Well there I was, I didn’t know exactly what to say. I just assumed she probably didn’t really like him as much as he did. And as though he read my mind…again. He brought forward his phone and opened his WhatsApp message with her for me to read.
What I noticed after reading through was that the girl in question was interested initially but along the way the conversation kinda died ’cause the guy spoke of nothing that interested her. It all became like a chorus, ‘same old same old’ – “How are you? How was your day”? And nothing more.
Guys, sameness paralyzes! And this is why she isn’t replying your texts.
The experienced I described above and many more made me realize this might be a big issue for guys… so I decided to render a helping hand by conducting a mini-survey on what girls would love guys to text them and here are their various responses. Please note that names have been changed.
Guys, this is why she isn’t replying your texts, and here are what ladies wish you would send them instead of the tedious messages they receive from you.
When asked, here’s what Olivia said would get her attention from a guy.
A question like, “‘ so what did u do today”? Is better than ‘how was your day’ because if a guy asked me that, I would just respond ‘fine’.”
Many other ladies agreed to Olivia’s statement.
Hence, guys, you might want to step up by stop sending, “how was your day?” The truth is that ladies naturally do have lots of admirers. And I bet you 90% of them are typing that same line- “how was your day“, concurrently.
Believe me it’s tedious replying the same message ten times. Hence, when you also type ‘how was your day?’, it makes no difference. She’s just going to stare at them all and type “it was fine”, then copy and paste it to all the guys sending her the same text (if she’s like me, lol. Please don’t hold this against me). Well, now you have a clue as to why she isn’t replying your texts.
In addition, Dorcas gave her own response,
“His texts should show that he cares and just wants to ask after me.”
Mary’s response agrees to this, “A guy should send me texts like, “How have you been?, what do you do aside learning?.”
Lastly, Olivia added to the above, “Maybe guys should ask questions that will keep a lady engaged in a conversation. Ladies like to talk and talk about themselves. Guys do the listening so if u want a lady to respond well ask her about something she must have told you about, like ask her how it is coming along”.
What I deduced from the above second responses is that girls want to talk about themselves. Maybe it’s a little selfish of us, but well, that’s for you to decide if you still desire our attention 😉😁.
The funny part is that, some ladies don’t even know the kind of messages that can get their attention. Ladies can be difficult Sha. That’s to tell you how much work you’ve got to do guys!
In conclusion, if you truly want to get a girl’s attention, send her something entirely new. I personally do not appreciate questions like “have you eaten?” We know you’re only trying to be caring and nice, but it gets on our nerves sometimes. Let it not be every time please. Instead send her something that you know no one has sent her today. If you really like her I believe getting that shouldn’t be a problem. In fact from there a new conversation can stem up and the flow continues. This will leave her with a sense of so much anticipation to the next time you will chat.
There you have it guys, ladies’ responses you might want to consider learning from… hope this helps!
I believe the above article has been of help! If so don’t hesitate to share with a friend!
And feel free to drop your comments on what type of texts can get your attention from a guy. Guys you can drop yours too.