It’s a familiar question and it usually goes like this, “Does God choose our partner for us?” This is a question almost every believer has come across.
Some people (maybe even you) believe that there is only one spouse meant for them on the planet. Is this true? Is this a fallacy? Let’s examine the facts.
When it comes to marital aspect, it is often believed by many believers that we must wait on God to choose for us. And not choose for ourselves as we are more likely to choose wrong. As true as this statement may be, it is only true to an extent.
Effects of This Belief
This belief sadly, has obstructed many well meaning people from marrying the partner of their choice.
For instance, some sincere believers have fallen victims of hypocrites that claimed but lied that, “God spoke and confirmed to me that you’re my partner.”
And because the significant partner had espoused the idea that God chose for us our partner, they yielded out of fear thinking they’d be disobeying God had they refused – despite having no desire to be with such person that approached them.
What’s disheartening is when the relationship (not marriage) becomes abusive and such a lady or guy remains in it because they think God wants them to be there. They think he/she is the one they are meant to be with. Hello dear believer, I’m happy to announce to you that God’s intention for you is to have peace not trouble.
In addition to this, some outsiders tend to criticize victims of broken marriage by claiming the couples were not being spiritual enough to have allowed God to choose their partners for them.
They often go on to say that, a marriage chosen by God will never fail, and such marriages are the ones we see today that are working.
While it’s true that God can speak to us through various means regarding our lives or other people’s- including revelation of who to marry- it’s not a fixed way for every believer.
As a believer, you have been given what is referred to as the free will by God.
Believing that God picks only one person for you to marry out of billions of people in the whole world would compromise this free will from Him. And God’s words can never be compromised. Not now, not ever.
Here’s a possible reason why some people hold on to this belief.
It is so that when their marriage or relationship crashes, they can have someone to blame. In this case- God. Once the marriage drowns, they say to God, “Why have you allowed me to marry or be with this man or that woman?”
Believing that God picks a partner for everyone is the same as believing that God picks what we wear, eat or what we drink. There is the power of free will, and this is the gift that we can either utilize rightfully or abusively
It all boils down to this, God doesn’t decide for us. Neither does he enforce on us regarding anything in our life, including marital spouse. To think so would be to violate the free will that we have been given.
Yes, agreeably, to have a Godly and fulfilling relationship, you must choose someone that is fit for you. But it doesn’t mean there is only one kind of such person. No, that’s not true. There are hundreds, if not thousands of people that are suitable for you. You just gotta find one to settle with.
What Does God Do Then?
He guides and supports us. That is, if we allow Him to.
Hence, in choosing who to marry, it is important to allow God to take the lead. We must seek His face and approval through prayers and other Godly means.
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