Virtually everyone has one or two opinions to share when it comes to the love topic, except that they are not always true. Some of these facts may be misleading and detrimental to your mental health when espoused. This is why I’ve put together 5 myths about love you need to stop believing for the benefit of your mental health.
1. There’s Only One Perfect Person For You Out There
In other words, until you meet your soul mate, you haven’t found love. How untrue! Soul mates don’t exist. Period. There are countless stories of couples who have at one time in their lives assumed they had found the one they were meant to be with for the rest of their lives only to be left jilted and disappointed in the end.
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Some people go as far as believing that God chooses only one person for them in the whole world and unless they end up with that person, the rest of the people that approach them are wrong. Here’s the truth, you choose who you want to be with, it’s as simple as that. Don’t let anyone make you believe otherwise.
Soul mates don’t exist. Period.
2. Love Doesn’t Fade
This is a tough one, I admit. We must, however, clarify the type of love we’re referring to here. In this case, when people say love doesn’t fade, they mean passionate love. The kind of love that makes their heart miss a beat each time their partner steps into the room or the phone rings with their name as the caller. Yes, this kind of love definitely fades. That igniting spark you feel when you’re just starting a relationship with someone will eventually die one day.
So what kind doesn’t? The kind that is deliberate, intentional, kind, and conscious. This is the kind of love you can count on till thy kingdom come. It’s only sad that we have very little of it.
This is why until people begin to accept that remaining in love with their partner is a choice, rather than a mere feeling, there will continue to be more broken hearts and relationships going around.
That igniting spark you feel when you’re just starting a relationship with someone will eventually die one day.
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3. You Are Not Complete Until You Are In A Romantic Relationship
How many times have we seen people measure their level of happiness with being with a partner? Lots of singles out there think something must be seriously wrong with them for not being in a relationship. This is simply one of those ridiculous myths about love.
The only person that can complete you is you.
Let me ask you a question, where is it written that you need romance to be whole or happy? The only person that can complete you is you. If you think otherwise, then something might truly be seriously wrong with you, no offense.
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4. There’s Love At First Sight
I wish there was such a thing as this phenomenon because we would all be able to know who we’re meant to be with within a glance. Unfortunately, this is purely one of those myths about love as there is absolutely nothing real in love at first sight. If you asked me, I’d say it’s all just a form of attraction that’s strictly physical.
Love doesn’t happen in an instant. It takes time and deliberate efforts for a mere attraction to develop into what’s called love.
Is it wrong to admire someone you just met? Definitely not. But to conclude based on the mere pretty appearance that you’re in love with them is only a step closer to heartbreak and disappointments. Love doesn’t happen in an instant. It takes time and deliberate efforts for a mere attraction to develop into what’s called love.
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5. When You’re In Love, You Won’t Find The Opposite Sex Attractive
This is yet another embraced myth about love. Hello! Your hormones and senses don’t go numb simply because you’re in a relationship with another individual. Being in a relationship doesn’t exempt you from having feelings for the opposite sex
At the early stage of the relationship, you may be blind to the opposite sex. However, the situation changes when the euphoric feelings begin to fade.
Oftentimes, many people who experience likeness for another being despite being with someone else have mistaken it as a sign that they don’t like their partner anymore. And as a result, have backslidden.
Being in a relationship doesn’t exempt you from having feelings for the opposite sex
While you may not be able to shield yourself from liking other people when in a relationship, the power to control how you respond lies in you. But first, it’s important to understand and come to terms with the fact that regardless of whether or not you’re dating someone, you will still be attracted to the opposite sex. This is the first important step to protecting yourself from the string of unfaithfulness.
Acknowledge the fact that your partner isn’t perfect but decide in advance to keep choosing them over anyone else. That’s how you escape the world of emotional guilt.
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