What are the basic questions to ask before entering a relationship? But first…
Isn’t it astonishing that being in a relationship comes with ecstatic feelings similar to that of being on drugs?
Yet, research shows that often more than not, most new relationships end within three months of starting. Oops!
That doesn’t mean it applies to all. But really, does everything have to have an unpleasant side to it?
The good news is, there are ways to prevent these incessant and unpleasant heartbreaks. Yes.
And one of those preventive measures is what you will learn from this article.
Lack of adequate preparation can lead to premature end of relationships. Asking apt questions is one of the plethora ways to making these adequate preparations.
Last post on THREE SIGNS THAT YOU’RE IN A “RELATIONSHIT”, I promised to write a list of useful questions that potential couples should ask. So, here I am to deliver my promise.
Following are the 20 Basic questions to ask before entering a relationship. These questions when asked, and answered sincerely by both genders can help know and understand each other better, hence, reveal if getting or staying involved is a good choice.
1. What is God’s position in your life?
Many potential couples often underrate this aspect of life before diving in only to realize its profound effects in their relationships.
2. Do you love yourself?
A person can only offer what they have. If they don’t love themselves, how can they love you?
3. What is your major love language?
Acts of Service? Words of Affirmation? Receiving Gifts? Touch? Quality Time?
4. Can you marry someone like your self?
5. Who is your role model?
6. What do you consider cheating in a relationship?
You’d be surprised that people tend to have different definitions for cheating.
7. What value system or principle do you live by?
For some, it could be karma, honesty, loyalty, and so on.
8. How often do you love to communicate with your partner?
Some partners can go a whole day without saying hi, it’s just how they are. Asking this question helps you know if you’re okay with it or not.
10. What do you want out of this relationship?
Are we headed for marriage? Or do you want to go with the flow?
11. What value do you intend to bring into this relationship (or to me)?
12. What do you value most in a relationship?
Trust? Communication? Sacrifices?
13. What’s your vision in life?
You don’t want to end up with someone with no directions.
14. Are you close with your family?
Not necessarily in terms of physical distance. The kind of relationship he/she has with his/her family will determine the kind they will have with yours, and of course, you.
15. Have you found your purpose in life?
16. Do you want children?
17. If yes to number 16, how many children do you want?
18. How do you handle fights?
19. What won’t you comprise on, no matter what?
20. What do you expect from me in this relationship?
It’s important to know what you’re signing up for.
Admittedly, asking these questions before entering a relationship does not 100 percent guarantee a successful one. But then, there’s more to a loving and long lasting relationship than asking questions.
Nevertheless, the act of questioning brings to the surface hidden parts of each individual involved, and in the process, allowing you both to connect on a deeper level thereby helping you both make better decisions in taking your friendship to the next level.
So, next time you find yourself getting attached to someone, try making use of the useful questions listed above before you fall in head over heels for them. Better an early discovery than a painful heartbreak.
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